Trying to create a wedding ceremony that is different from the cookie-cutter
"Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today..." approach can be challenging. 

Couples today are looking for wedding ceremonies that are unique but tradtional, have deep, personal meaning and also reflect their spiritual/religious beliefs. 
This is why having a frank discussion with the minister you have chosen is an
important part of creating the perfect ceremony.

This discussion helps to lay out expectations on both sides, and determines if
those expectations can be met.

Here are a few tips for approaching this discussion:

First, you will need to find out if the minister is willing to accomodate your
personal situation(s).  Some of those situations include:

• You are of different faiths
• One or both of you has been divorced
• You are not members of the minister's church
  

Some ministers may not be willing to marry you if these situations exist.
Its better to know this ahead of time so that you can have time to find
someone else.

Next, you should determine if the minister is willing to accomodate your
wishes with regard to personalizing your ceremony.  Some of those wishes
might include:

• Decorations and flowers
• Having an additional officiant
• Personalized vows and specific readings
• Special ceremonies (e.g., Unity Candle, Unity Sand, etc.)
• Contemporary, non-religious music that is appropriate
• Your input and/or "okay" of the sermon
• Videographer locations in and around the altar
• Having the minister wear a microphone for the wedding video
  

Also, you should inquire about these other important details regarding the ceremony:

• Mandatory pre-marital classes
• Customary fee or donation to the church
• Marriage license processing
• Wedding rehearsal details

You may also wish to extend an invitation to the minister to the reception.

Working closely with your minister can save time and headaches and goes
a long way toward creating a memorable wedding ceremony for you and
your guests.

For more in-depth information on making your wedding ceremony special,
click here!